‘Some think it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.’ Sylvia Robinson
There is a connection – a bond, a tie, an attachment, an umbilical cord. Imagine holding onto one end of a rope and another is holding onto the other end of the rope. You both hold on tightly. Wherever one of you goes the other one goes too. Generally you are content, either of you may occasionally be disgruntled but you are comfortable in your attachment. The other starts to tug at the rope, you pull it back, they pull harder – it is a tug of war. You dig your heels in, they dig their heels in.
“I am powerless – I don’t know what else I can do”
Empower yourself, put the rope down.
You are inviting the conflict in. Now you are faced with managing your loss, rather than managing the external conflict.
What have you lost? Make a list of all the little losses within the primary loss. You may need a large sheet of paper.
This is life……a multitude of losses and endless beginnings.
Breathe, trust, let go.