Love only grows by sharing. You can only have more for yourself by giving it away to others.’
Sharing is being generous, trusting and open.
Sharing is being in it together, fitting together so that your energy is magnified.
Sharing the load. Carrying one handle each rather than two handles on your own.
Being magnanimous, wanting success for another and sharing their joy in it.
Sharing is being on a tandem ride, sometimes in the front leading the way and sometimes at the back in a supporting role. Recognising that both are equally important, moving together towards a common goal.
is valuing another, giving and receiving in a balanced way. Sharing is generous, without limits or
conditions. It is giving of yourself to
others. It is generously accepting of
others goodwill. It is part of being a
Sharing is putting your trust in
yourself and others. It is moving through feelings of fear and inadequacy, it
is putting yourself on the line.
‘If I share my thoughts, my
feelings, and opinions with you will you validate or dismiss me?
How are you sharing yourself with
How does sharing benefit you?
How does sharing yourself benefit others?
‘Happiness is not so much in having as sharing. We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.’
‘Resilience is accepting your new reality, even if it’s less good than the one you had before’
Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity. If life is a game then snakes and ladders is the one played most often. The snakes represent times of crisis and the ladders are times of opportunity. You can be moving through life quite easily and then suddenly you are in a crisis situation, sliding down a snake. Sliding down a snake can feel like your world is crashing down around you. You travel down, down and then even further down before seeing a ladder in front of you.
The ladder depicts times of
opportunity and chance. Moving up the ladder can be exhilarating; it can be an
exciting experience. These are the periods of celebration and success, which
are an opportunity to build resilience. This is achieved by making deposits of
faith and hope, which cushion the disappointment of sliding down the next
Resilience is picking yourself up
from an experience and continuing on your way. Resilience is a protective
factor. It is accepting that there are both snakes and ladders in life and that
you can take them in your stride. Resilience is stepping back from the game and
seeing that there is both crisis and opportunity as we move through life.
Resilience is knowing;
‘I can handle it’
What is likely to send you down a
How can you manage this
What do you need to get back on
What is likely to move you up the
How are you celebrating being on
‘Persistence and resilience only come from having been given the chance to work through difficult problems.’
‘Your vision willbecome clear only when you look into your heart‘ Carl Jung
Look back and learn, look forward
and achieve. Vision is purpose. Vision is the fully created image on the jigsaw
box. The jigsaw pieces are the steps that take you there. Vision is your destination; it is where you
are headed. Vision is how you want your life to be.
Vision is a creation of images, a
statement of intention, the road ahead; it is your chosen path. Vision is
letting go of the past and the present.
It is taking a leap of faith and exploring your future.
The vision you create for yourself
is up to you. The tools are in your hands.
Given your attention your vision will evolve over time. It is full of
possibility and opportunity. Visualisation is seeing with your mind, it is a
skill that can be learnt. If memory is an old film, visualisation is a trailer
for a new release.
Visualisation is mental rehearsal,
it is a conveyor belt displaying the options available to you. The choice is
yours. What will you add to your vision. Be bold, be visionary. Capture your
vision in the best way for you, writing, talking, or with pictures. Tell others
your vision, describe it in as much detail as you can, make it real.
Nothing is written in stone. Your
vision is yours to play with, have fun with it.
breathe in cherish yourself, as you breathe out cherish all beings’ Dalai Lama Xiv
To cherish is to treat gently,
with warmth and understanding. It is to
marinade in love and to enjoy the pleasure this brings. It is the holding kiss, cupped hands and
Cherish others, cherish
Appreciate what you have and who
you are. Cherish is a melting moment;
something that warms you from inside and glows for all to see. Soak yourself in
warm melting moments and give them out to others. Value everything about your life and
appreciate that everything has value. Cherish what others give to you, with
appreciation and respect.
Cherish is liking what you have.
Cherish says ‘ I want the very
best for you’ and ‘You are worth it’.
Cherish is a grown up nurture; I nurture my children, I cherish you.
Being cherished is like being given a golden ticket to trust, confidence and
Cherishing others is standing at
the ticket booth, handing out that ticket. It is a passport to fulfilling
open, no holds barred, unrestricted. It thrives in variety, imagination and
inspiration. Creativity is visionary – it forms an image in your head and
gently manipulates it until it can be seen in the physical world.
You cannot put
creativity in a box. It is outside of the box, thinking of ways to make a
difference, improve a situation, or make a statement.
When logic says
‘No’ Creativity says ‘why not? Lets find a way’
Creativity is a
colouring pencil. It has the potential to bring colour, depth and meaning to
your life. Play, interesting, excited,
positive, joy, confidence,
vibrant – this is how creativity feels.
Borrow these feelings from creativity to inject passion and enthusiasm into
your life story.
Find one thing
in your life that is evidence of your creativity and build upon it.
‘Some think it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.’ Sylvia Robinson
a connection – a bond, a tie, an attachment, an umbilical cord. Imagine holding onto one end of a rope and
another is holding onto the other end of the rope. You both hold on tightly.
Wherever one of you goes the other one goes too. Generally you are content,
either of you may occasionally be disgruntled but you are comfortable in your
attachment. The other starts to tug at
the rope, you pull it back, they pull harder – it is a tug of war. You dig your
heels in, they dig their heels in.
“I am powerless – I don’t know what else I
yourself, put the rope down.
inviting the conflict in. Now you are
faced with managing your loss, rather than managing the external conflict.
you lost? Make a list of all the little losses within the primary loss. You may
need a large sheet of paper.
life……a multitude of losses and endless beginnings.
‘It is good to have an end to journey toward – but it is the journey that matters in the end.’ Ursula K Leguin
been a joy. Like watching one of my favourite films I have been taken on a
wonderful journey. I have laughed and
cried, been inspired and showered with wonder.
I am in
awe. The joy that comes from taking time to reflect and appreciate fills me
up. This is the perfect end to a party;
a cup of tea in hand, sharing the experiences and anecdotes with my loved ones.
I am blessed with abundance.
I have chosen to look around my stately home I recognise that I have all I need
right here, right now. I have some space
to grow, some empty rooms that invite opportunity, some untidy rooms that
reflect creativity and abandonment. I
have one room that is neat and uncluttered and a room in the garden to enjoy.
fortunate. I am a play in progress. I have welcomed play back into my life and
my spirit is lifted. Play nourishes me;
it cradles my soul and makes me happy.
I love to
celebrate. It is the best reward. The
recognition of all that has been and the hope of what is to come.
been a pleasure.
a splash. Challenge a wave. Embrace a friend.
Passion is where your heart is. If your head is reason then your heart is passion. Passion is movement, momentum, it is a force for good. Allow your passion to guide you towards your hearts desire.
If it was
up to me I would…………….What would you do?
It is up
the barriers that hold your passion back and reveal the real you.
is like being in love, it is all consuming, it takes you over. Dig deep into your soul and discover what
will move you out of bed, out of your head, look for something that will enrich
your life and pour your heart into it.
Comfort is a soft place. It is being held by someone you trust, with
their arms, their empathy or their gaze.
Comfort is being understood and cared for. It is curling up on a large sofa surrounded
by cushions. Comfort is a healing
touch. It soothes and caresses the
physical body which calms the emotions.
Comfort is the pit stop of life; a
place of recovery and repair. Without
comfort we walk through our life overloaded with baggage. We stuff or rucksacks full of grief and
collect bags of worry and guilt along the way.
A soft place allows us to lay
down; to rest our bodies and lay down our burdens. Identify your soft place. It may be a person, a room, a chair, a
bed. You will recognise your soft place
when you feel the tension release from your body. When your breathing is calm
and even and when a feeling of well being spreads through you.
Being in your soft place is like
coming home, connecting to your self.
Value your soft place and
introduce more of them into your life.
Using your soft place is a
reminder that you care for your self.
The new year is the time when we are likely to think about making some changes. It is a time when we can use other peoples desire for change to propel us forward. When we use others to inspire us to make those changes it feel like we are in it together and not alone on our quest. I hope my thoughts about inspiration will inspire you to take action.
‘It’s not where you take things from, it’s where you take them to’ Jean-Luc Godard
Get inspired. Inspiration is a volcanic explosion of desires, wonder and possibilities. Harness this power and energy to move you into action. Inspiration is a stepping stone; it is anything that moves you towards your ideal.
Align yourself with positive influences. Gravitate towards people you admire, places that you love and things that make you feel good. Be inspired. Notice the details. What do you like and admire about that person? what is it about this place that you love? how does this thing make you feel good?
Inspiration is the light bulb moment when a surge of power transmits through two elements and joins them together. It is seeing things in a different way, realising that there is a way through; a closed door, an overgrown path, an uphill climb.
If you can do it, then so can I. You are an inspiration.